The Virgo Woman
The Virgo Woman: Love, Sex, Friendship, Style
The Virgo Woman
Charming, perfect, and intelligent, the Maiden seduces all that crosses her path, be it man, woman, or unicorn. The Virgoan woman is very discerning, a natural critic, and a sharp analyzer of everything and everyone.
Highly intuitive, she has the ability to sense what is off-key about a person or situation, and hone in to this with intent to improve. Don’t take it personally, because Virgos only mean well. The Virgo woman in your life is liable to wave a magic hand over chaos, imposing a gentle, perfect order on your universe.
Governed by Earth, the Virgo woman is inherently practical, basing her thoughts on reality, not imagination. Sensation and experience are more important than emotion and fantasy to the Virgo woman. The Maiden walks with feet firmly on the ground, stepping gracefully and gently in her sensible reality.
Detail-oriented, she will be the only person to have brought a can-opener to a camping cookout, and then offer the china plates – that no one else thought to bring – to serve dinner on. This is a dynamite of a woman, who literally does think of everything. And where would you be without her, is the supporting refrain.
Virgo women like systematic approaches and planned routines. They are usually collectors of some sort – butterflies, stamps, and stories.
Famous Virgoans include Lauren Bacall, Mother Theresa, Selma Hayek and Cameron Diaz.
Virgo the Virgin Associations
|Dates: August 23- September 22
Color: Blue or gray
Part of Body Ruled: Colon, intestines
Motto: I analyze
*Sun sign dates are always approximate, as starting and ending dates can vary from year to year. If you were born on a cusp and are uncertain of your Sun sign, you can use the What’s My Sun sign? tool.
See also more facts, symbols, and associations for the sign Virgo.
The Virgo woman is neat and quiet, right? Not necessarily. She can be talkative with Mercury, the planet of communication, as her ruler, but usually her personality is a bit more low-keyed than those of more fiery and airy signs.
While some Virgos are neat freaks, some are so intimidated with the process that they try to look the other way. This is because all Virgos are perfectionists. Some perfectionists tirelessly work on perfecting, and others are so overwhelmed by their need to be perfect that they figure if they don’t try hard, they can avoid the fear of never feeling that anything is “right” enough. However, those that do let things slide tend to be apologetic for the fact, or anxious about it.
The Virgo woman’s continuous search for self improvement regularly makes this lady’s life far more complicated than is necessary. Rarely satisfied with the way things are, the overly analytical Virgo woman can be her own worst enemy when it comes to enjoying life, leisure, and relationships.
Represented by the sign of the virgin, a Virgo woman may be modest and shy, but she’s definitely not a prude.
She loves to be in nature and a long walk on her day off or tending to her garden are special ways she enjoys herself. Another one of her attributes is her ability to be on time. Employers love this quality as do her family and friends.
She can seem cold and distant at times, when really she is just shy and hesitant.
Virgos in Love
When it comes to matters of the heart, a Virgo woman has inner strength and determination. The Maiden is pure and true and not easily shaken. She believes in real love, practical love – not just the stuff of fairy tales and happily-ever-after, but love between partners and equals. She is extremely passionate and intense, and demands perfection from her relationship – not always an achievable gift to give, but she is often doing the most work on getting there.
The Virgo woman tends to analyze the situation, searching for flaws, strengthening weaknesses, and exploring emotions. She only falls in love with one person at a time, and does not wear her heart on her sleeve, plunging deeply into love only after she has applied her critical mind to it.
This is not to say that Ms. Virgo doesn’t experience impulsive and powerful attractions, because she does. She needs love as much as any other sign in the zodiac. But modest Virgo will often have an insecure reaction if she discovers that her affections are requited. It’s at this point that she will wonder what that person sees in her.
The Virgo woman likes herself, but because she sees all of her flaws so clearly, she worries that she might not live up to others’ expectations. This is one of the reasons why suitors of Virgo women may need to provide a lot of reassurance over the long term. If you go over the top or if you seem to be in love with a fantasy image of her, you are likely to push her further away.
Keep things as real as possible, and you have a real chance with the Virgo woman. Show her that you like her at her worst as well as at her best.
Make a Virgo woman feel secure in the relationship and she’ll work exceptionally hard to maintain a loving, caring atmosphere on the home-front. This lady enjoys the pleasure that she brings to her partner, so when she asks what she can do for you, she honestly wants to know.
Virgo and Relationships
Completely devoted when attached, Virgoans are reliable and loyal, weighing all the facts before committing themselves. Romance is important to them, and usually a Virgo woman would rather choose to be single than with the wrong person, holding out for Mr./Mrs. Perfect, not just Mr./Mrs. Right. This is not to say that she expects her partner to be inhumanly perfect, but she does want a partner who perfectly suits her.
She is easygoing and steady in relationships, applying her attention to detail and charm to making it work. Independent and strong, a Virgo woman would never cling to her perfect, over-achieving partner. The Maiden, contrary to urban legend, does not need rescuing, just companionship. She is most compatible with Scorpio, Gemini, Cancer, Taurus, and Capricorn.
The Virgo woman doesn’t always express emotion naturally and this makes her appear reserved and even a bit stand-offish at times. Other Virgos may mask their vulnerable feelings with jokes and teases. She finds it difficult to emotionally open up and let just anyone close, so making new friends and committing to relationships may be a problem for her. Some Virgos easily make acquaintances, but take their time when establishing true friendships.
Acutely discriminating, the Virgo woman is particular when it comes to choosing a mate and her partner. This might be a good thing, but it can certainly slow down her love life.
Some Virgo women take the time to learn how to lighten up. A nervous or socially fearful Virgo might mask her vulnerability by focusing too much on facts, figures, and words of advice. While she is quite brilliant and can master almost anything she can set her mind to, and small talk is one of those things she can learn to do well, it may not come very naturally to her in her youth.
She is very rational, and in any argument, her point of view will be the most logical and the hardest to argue against. She is charming and witty and will do everything she can to help you in her firm, but gentle way.
For a Virgo woman, her gift of love is pragmatic more than anything else. If she can be helpful, useful, and supportive to her partner, she will do so quite happily. She will truly go the extra mile for those she loves, with a cheerful smile on her face. To her, it’s not an inconvenience because it is a physical expression of how much she loves them.
Those who love a Virgo woman learn to appreciate the little, sweet touches that she makes during the day to show them how much they mean to her, rather than expecting over the top verbal and physical displays of enthusiasm.
Virgo and Friendships
Reliable and helpful, a Virgo friend will be on call for you at every important event in your life, be it first kiss, second baby, or third husband. She’ll turn up early at your wedding to iron out the last minute details for you, remember to call you to remind you to pick up your dry cleaning, and never forget your birthday.
Her critical nature and practical personality combine to make a friend who gives excellent advice when asked for. Just don’t jump up on couches declaring your affection – Virgo women can be a tad reserved when it comes to big exhibits of emotion.
However, because of this reserve, she may not hear praise often enough, so please don’t hold back when it comes to gratitude – just try to keep it quiet and heartfelt. Many Virgos are skeptical of grand gestures and big displays, giving more weight to simpler, quieter shows of appreciation.
Virgo and Sexuality
The Maiden may have a reputation for prudishness, but her aloofness should not be confused with priggishness. Mistress of the minutiae, Virgos revel in the little details of lovemaking. Safe to say that Virgo’s lovers should never skip the flowers, scented candles, or foreplay.
A strong, confident lover will draw out the best of sexual Virgo, who will just as happily have sex on the beach as a cocktail and as a locality, as long as her partner is secure and takes the initiative. If you can break down her guards, she may just give full vent to her unpredictable and unplanned passions.
Modest and conservative in many areas of life, she’s more fact than fantasy, so don’t expect role-playing to be an automatic part of her bedroom repertoire – but don’t rule it out either. The Virgo woman can’t help analyzing her own performance and is always looking for self-improvement.
Don’t be surprised to find self-help books on sex and romance on her list of required reading. Because she is often so hard on herself, it is especially important that her partner reassure her that she is doing everything right.
Virgo and Career
Accountant, librarian, doctor, personal trainer, writer, gardener, hospice worker, government employee, analyst – these are all vocations that can be associated with the sign.
Virgos are detail-oriented. That doesn’t mean they love to add up columns of numbers, although to some that is an enjoyable task, but they’re organized. If they put a weekly report in a green file folder in the third drawer of that beige filing cabinet on the west wall, then chances are high that it will be there every time it’s needed.
Punctuality is ingrained in her and she expects it of others, too. She makes a dedicated employee and isn’t the type of worker to sit at her desk and doodle on a notepad and daydream. If she’s not given anything more to do, she’ll usually ask for work.
Even during the Virgo woman’s down time, she tends to feel a little odd about doing nothing. It’s not uncommon to see a Virgo woman with a book or Kindle in hand as she watches television, for example. As such, a job that keeps her well occupied is important.
Becoming too engaged in the small details of her job, the Virgo woman often fails to see the bigger picture and this can stifle advancements in her career. She might also privately fear the pressures of a career that puts her completely in control, and this can keep her from moving forward. She’s excellent at what she does, and takes her work very seriously. This woman may neglect her need for some really important leisure time.
The Virgo woman makes a great scientist, analyst, literary critic, copyeditor, writer, mathematician, bookkeeper, executive assistant, inspector, or psychologist.
Meticulous, analytical, and constructively critical, this woman could be a great reality show judge. America’s Got Talent, perhaps?
Virgo and Money
As with many things in her life, the Virgo woman doesn’t like to take risks with her finances. This woman’s financial portfolio will contain conservative investments that are tuned for long-term stability rather than any aggressive or risky short-term yields.
The Virgo woman is a worrier and one of her favorite subjects to worry about is money. Does she have enough? She could win the lottery and only be temporarily relieved about that issue. It’s not that her needs are extreme, and, in fact, she is perfectly capable of getting by on less, but that she wants to feel in control of her little place in the world.
Most Virgo women believe that you make money by earning it and saving it. She is unlikely to fall for a get-rich-quick scheme, and if she does, she will learn from her experience.
Many Virgos are excellent at spotting good deals and true sales. She does not typically fall for flashy sales that don’t truly offer savings, as she does her research and has a naturally skeptical mind.
You can count on the Virgo woman to always have a little stash put away for those unexpected expenditures.
Virgo and Family
She is not always the most demonstrative of people, but the Virgo woman is often the strength behind her family unit. She will always go out on a limb for a family member, will work tirelessly for her own children, and provide support and comfort for those in need.
Many Virgos take care of so many “little things” that others in the family take her for granted, not always seeing or recognizing her important role. She can be extremely thoughtful with the details. While shopping, she is usually the one who remembers that her partner could do with some new socks and a back support for their desk chair, the particular brand of pasta her daughter prefers, her son could really use a warmer jacket, and her mother only seems to use a cookbook if it has pictures.
What she may lack in demonstrativeness, she will more than compensate with her thoughtfulness and attention to detail, as this shows her love and concern.
As a parent, she might be a little fussy over her children’s health, always wanting the best for them. She wants to help them, though she might be a little controlling, determined that she knows what’s best. She will manage her family well and will not put up with bad manners in her children. Virgo Woman is extremely house-proud and works hard to tend to everyone’s needs.
Virgo and Health
If the Virgo woman is going to have a health problem it is likely related to indigestion and ulcers because she simply worries too much – about everything!
Knowing that taking care of her health is the practical thing to do, the Virgo woman might analyze her nutritional intake to excess. And even when she feels well this woman can’t help analyzing every little ache and pain.
Hypochondriac? Any time we overanalyze something we run the risk of over-worry as well, so yes, some Virgo women can be hypochondriacs. However, when not taken to excess, these women can be storehouses of knowledge and informed just enough to lead an especially healthy life.
Virgos often need reminders to slow down, chill out, and relax more often. Stress-reducing activities are essential.
Virgo and Fashion
Wools in one load, colors in the other, whites in the last, and not one black sock out of place – Virgos do things, like the laundry, properly. A Virgo woman would hate to be found wearing crumpled shirts or with lint and cat hair on her black coat. Minimalist, sophisticated, and cool, her fashion sense reflects her perfect personality. She prefers simple, clean lines which are tailored to fit well and to last more than one season. She does not usually wear trends, knowing that true style never goes out of fashion.
Conservative gray and practical navy blue are favored colors of this refined Virgo woman. She has exceptionally good taste and it will show in her wardrobe. The Virgo woman’s attire will be practical and sophisticated, but very appealing. Even the flashier Virgo‘s wardrobe will show sophistication and taste. Generally speaking, Virgos are not attracted to extremes in style.
The Virgo woman’s meticulous nature carries through to her appearance. She generally pays more attention to her appearance than she’d like to let on, and doesn’t like to get caught with a bad hair day, or sloppy clothing.
The Virgo Woman: Decanates
August 23 – September 2 – Virgo/Virgo Decanate – may be a bit more talkative than other Virgos due to the stronger Mercury influence. They can also be prone to worry a lot more easily about little things.
September 3 – 12 – Virgo/Capricorn Decanate – with the Saturn influence those born within this decanate can be more serious than those born earlier or later. They can be genuine workaholics.
September 13 – 22 – Virgo/Taurus Decanate – Virgo women born during this time period are generally more patient and persistent, as well as more interested in comfort and security.
The Virgo Woman: Style
If discriminating elegance can be personified, it will be in the Virgo woman. Not for her the passing fad, the endless preoccupation with rising and falling hemlines, this year’s shade of hair or whether to dress up or dress down. She knows what she likes, what to wear and refuses to be a slave to the changing face of fashion.
The Virgo woman wants value for money, and clothes that will be “so five minutes ago” in five minutes or so are just not on her radar. She doesn’t want to stand out too much from the crowd. She usually shops alone – even her best friends can’t stand her painstaking attention to detail. They see a really hot dress – she sees a seam that will unravel at the worst possible moment. Poor workmanship is her greatest peeve, and she is so discriminating she will find it on the biggest labels. She can also be very fussy about what she feels is flattering for her, as she can be very self-critical at times.
To her, fashion should be timeless, and her clothes should be able to take her from the office or the playgroup, to lunch and dinner and a night on the town. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t care how she looks. She cares deeply and will take time to freshen up before each activity. Antiperspirant is this woman’s credit card – she won’t leave home without it. The idea of offending anyone with body odor is nightmarish. Nevertheless, she doesn’t always like others to know how much she cares about her appearance. Because of their fear of not being perfect enough and of being criticized, some Virgos will find it safer to act as if they’ve thrown themselves together and could do better if they actually tried.
While she isn’t big on being pampered, she loves the idea of a visit to a spa for her birthday or another special occasion. Her general hygiene is so excellent, she always looks her best anyway. Products should fulfill their promises, no matter what their cost. She will change brands if the quality drops, or if the product doesn’t do what it advertised. The Virgo woman tends to be very sensitive to her environment, and certain ingredients, so she will insist on quality control.
Her taste in jewelry and accessories is quite restrained, although she may have a fondness for rings and bracelets. Virgo is ruled by Mercury, the planet that rules the hands, and she hates jewelry that leaves green marks, or dirty chipped nails or work reddened hands. She will go all out on polishes and creams that keep her hands and nails looking good. A clean look and feel are more important to her than flash.
Shoes are just as important. The Virgo woman likes to feel comfortable in her shoes, but she likes fashionable yet low-profile looks as well. She will have shoes made especially for her if she can’t find what she needs in the shops. Shoes that pinch put her out of sorts. She likes to walk, and will exercise regularly, although she may prefer solitary active pursuits to working out at a crowded, sweaty gym.
Although she does very well in a corporate environment, the possibility of allergies means she needs to get out in nature as often as possible. The Virgo woman makes her way methodically to the top, and is noted for her perfectionist attention to detail. She likes to keep a low profile and needs to remind herself that others sometimes take credit for her hard work. She should make sure that credit goes where it is due.
Her beauty routines are simple but effective. Her do’s are easy to care for, and many Virgo women prefer short, glossy hair that is easy to manage. Can a Virgo woman break out when the occasion demands and look stunning? You betcha!
It’s all about great grooming. The Virgo woman prefers to be seen for the woman she is, not the clothes she wears. But put her in a hot dress, and she will metamorphose into a catwalk queen. She has the instinct to carry any occasion off with style and elegance.
In relationships, she is just as discriminating. A loyal and hardworking partner, she expects the same in return. She needs a partner who is aware of all she puts into the relationship, and doesn’t take her for granted. Another earth sign, Taurus or Capricorn, will appreciate her fine qualities, but surprisingly, she may find most happiness with her opposite sign, Pisces.
While Taurus and Capricorn will share her goals, they may not arouse her sensuality. Underneath the calm and discriminating exterior, the Virgo woman is a romantic who believes in True Love. Only Pisces can awaken this deep desire to be cherished and swept off her feet, and in Pisces she finds the perfect subject for her compulsive nurturing.
With a less sensitive partner, sex may become too routine, and hygiene take precedence over passion. This is not a bad thing, but when the Virgo woman finds the right partner, safe sex becomes not just a mantra, but a path to ecstasy.
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