Venus in the Signs
Venus in Aries
How do you attract things, situations, and people into your life? Venus rules our sentiments, what we value, and the pleasure we take in life. Grace, charm, and beauty are all ruled by Venus. Through Venus, we learn about our tastes, preferences, artistic inclinations, and what makes us happy. We look to Venus in the natal chart to see how we approach relationships of the heart, as well as what gives us pleasure. We also turn to Venus to show how we spend our money, the types of gifts we buy, and how much we spend on leisure activities (not to mention the kinds of leisure activities we seek). Venus rules attractiveness–both the ability to attract and attraction to others (and things). Venus rules, amongst other things, the arts, love and romance, beauty and the beautifying process, money, entertainment, leisure, sensuality, and comfort.
With Venus in Aries, you’re straightforward in your romantic or social life. You flirt by being up-front, direct, and even daring. You try to win others over by expressing how enterprising and independent you are. Your style of expressing love can be maddeningly “me”-centered, but the right person for you will find this approach charming. People often enjoy your aura of innocent charm, even when you are acting a little childish or impatient.
You’re likely to have a fun-loving manner in love. You’re turned on by energy and activity. Turn-offs include a relationship that is considered stuffy or too “mature,” vagueness, and beating around the bush. In love, you can be hopelessly addicted to the conquest. For a relationship to remain fresh and new, you require plenty of stimulation. You need to see some sparks flying! You’re attracted to independent, dynamic people, or that’s your own style when in pursuit of something (or someone) you want.
Pleasing you in love involves fueling your need for action. Others should be direct, open, and honest with you since you don’t much like game-playing or evasiveness unless it is in the full spirit of fun. They’d do well to feed your need for spontaneity, appreciate your playfulness, and understand your desire for the relationship to remain young and fresh. Venus in Aries likes to take the lead in love (even if your Sun Sign is gentle Pisces). You have many whims, and you thrive on competition.
You don’t necessarily take control, but you do instinctively take the lead in matters of the heart. You don’t quickly adapt to others’ feelings, however. You can be demanding in love, addicted to the chase or the intense passions of the moment. You love spontaneous expressions of affection and sexuality. You’re enthusiastic and attractive and possess innocent or straightforward charm. You attract by being direct and not beating around the bush, preferring to get right to the point! Your attractions are quick and sometimes short-lived. You’re ardent and often hard to resist! However, you can be a little blunt and abrupt at times.
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With money, you can be an impulse buyer. You’re attracted to new and innovative products but would do well to wait a few days before buying because the desire can pass quite quickly. Art that appeals to you is bold and active in tone.
Venus in Taurus
How do you attract things, situations, and people into your life? Venus rules our sentiments, what we value, and the pleasure we take in life. Grace, charm, and beauty are all ruled by Venus. Through Venus, we learn about our tastes, preferences, artistic inclinations, and what makes us happy. We look to Venus in the natal chart to see how we approach relationships of the heart, as well as what gives us pleasure. We also turn to Venus to show how we spend our money, the types of gifts we buy, and how much we spend on leisure activities (not to mention the kinds of leisure activities we seek). Venus rules attractiveness–both the ability to attract and attraction to others (and things). Venus rules, amongst other things, the arts, love and romance, beauty and the beautifying process, money, entertainment, leisure, sensuality, and comfort.
With your Venus in Taurus, love centers on the physical world and creature comforts — you revel in sensual surroundings. You’re likely to project yourself as solid and comfortable. In fact, something about your manner promises you’ll be a satisfying lover and partner. You need a certain measure of predictability and dependability in your relationships, even if your Sun isn’t Taurus and is instead in the more spontaneous signs of Aries or Gemini.
You can be possessive in love, and you’re threatened by fast-paced, high-energy situations in the context of relationships and love. You’re a sensual partner who requires lots of hands-on expressions of love. Your lovers may complain that you can get a little too comfortable and settled. It’s true that you resist change in your relationships, but even when you seem stuck in a groove, you’re constant – a rare trait.
Pleasing you involves emphasizing loyalty and worth. Others may need to give in to you more often than not in love matters since you can be quite stubborn! You like it when a partner is physical with you and does comfortable things. You don’t want to be pushed in love — you need a lot of time. Your partners may need to cultivate patience. You appreciate a partner who is simple and natural and you respond most to those who promise you a comfortable, cozy time.
Venus in Taurus Personal Ad Bio: “I am dependable. My ideal date consists of good food, fine wine, and cuddling up with each other at home.”
You’re a very physical lover with a great appreciation for scents, sounds, feels, and pleasing form. You can be very patient in love. Your charm is natural and earthy. You believe that actions speak louder than words and are not as easily charmed by sweet talkers as most people. You can be unflagging in love, and you don’t quickly get over betrayal.
You can be possessive in love and with possessions and things, too. You’re attracted to products of high quality and durability. You’re generally good with your money, spending lavishly only on objects of beauty, long-lasting objects, and food. Venus in Taurus is not usually especially generous people and are typically quite practical and patient when it comes to saving and spending money. Harmony and peace are essential characteristics of the art and music that draws you in. You dislike gaudy, cheap, tacky, or excessively loud/bold art, clothing, and possessions.
Venus in Gemini
With Venus in Gemini, you will attempt to win over the object of your affection with witty conversation, by displaying just how much you know, and through demonstrating your diverse interests. You are a playful lover — some might even call you a tease. You’re hard to pin down, and you resist relationships that promise to become too “comfortable.” Even if your Sun is in Taurus or Cancer and your outward demeanor may suggest some reserve and caution, you want your relationships to be stimulating and full of conversation with Venus in mutable Air sign, Gemini, the Twins.
You don’t want to be too tied or bogged down in your relationships. You appreciate lightheartedness in love. Although you’re willing to talk (perhaps endlessly) about the relationship, you may gloss over some of the deeper issues. In love, your tastes change often, and it can be hard for others to know what to expect from one day to the next (or, sometimes, from one hour to the next!).
Pleasing you involves supporting your need for fun and variety, showing interest in your brainpower and knowledge, entertaining you, and giving you space for friends and activities outside of the relationship. You appreciate people who make it clear they have loads of fun with you. Partners should try not to become overly miffed by your changeable ways. After all, time spent with you is invariably exciting and invigorating. As well, you are fully capable of settling in with someone who understands your love of conversation, changes of scenery, and variety.
Venus in Gemini Personal Ad Bio: “I am fun-loving. My ideal date consists of going to a cafe, taking in a movie, and talking about it.”
You sometimes get involved in relationships solely out of curiosity. You are intellectually curious about people, and you’re eternally fascinated by social interactions. Although you enjoy flirting, you can remain somewhat aloof when it comes to matters of the heart. You are attracted to people who are adaptable, positive, and bright.
Curiosity motivates you on romantic and social levels. “Variety is the spice of life” is your attitude in love, in social relationships, and with personal possessions. You’re sociable, communicative, and interested. You can be delightfully animated and fun but may also keep your distance on an emotional level. Attractions often begin with words, as you tend to bond most readily on a mental level.
You spend money on books, information, and social events. You’re a bit fickle when it comes to your attachment to objects and personal possessions, and you seek variety in your personal belongings. You may very well enjoy the thought that goes behind making purchases, weighing various options. You’re attracted to art that is expressive, verbal and social in tone, light, and happy.
Venus in Cancer
With your Venus in Cancer, love for you is probably best when it’s committed and steady. You’re sensitive in love, especially if your Sun is in Cancer, but even if your Sun sign is in the more playful signs of Gemini or Leo. One might even say that your ego is underdeveloped regarding love and that your heart is hyperdeveloped. You have a lot to give: namely, security, comfort, and care.
You show your love through tender loving care, simply put! You pay more attention to a lover’s feelings than their words, and observe them carefully. You’re likely to crave a safe, solid relationship that nurtures and sustains you, and such a connection is worth far more to you than excitement or novelty. You can be a little moody in love, perhaps giving silent treatments or engaging in pouting routines to get attention from your mate. This is not always a game – you’re inclined to clam up when upset! You’re turned off by anything impersonal, and too much rationalizing leaves you feeling left out in the cold. You’re not afraid of emotional confrontations, even if you appear flighty or devil-may-care in other areas of life. Still, you can be frequently worried that you’ll be left high and dry. If someone’s hurt you, you’ll have a very hard time forgetting. Every so often, you’ll retreat into yourself (not unlike a Crab), and it can be difficult to pull you out. This is when you use your extraordinary nurturing and nursing abilities on yourself instead of your partner–something your partner may take great pains to avoid!
Pleasing you involves lots of snuggling and sentimentality. For best results, others need to recognize your attachment to your family and home. A partner or potential lover should help build your confidence in them since when you’re fearful of being rejected, you can resort to some frustrating tactics to discover just how loved you are. Consider how a crab (the symbol of Cancer) moves towards its goal, and you will get a fair idea of Venus in Cancer’s approach. People who want to win your favor should focus on making you feel secure and cared for, and you’ll reward them with your awesome patience, dependability, and love.
My Personal Ad Bio: “I’m just a regular person. I’ve built a solid foundation. I’m comfortable and comforting. I care. I stick around. My ideal date consists of eating in and snuggling up to one another.”
With Venus in Cancer in your birth chart, you’re sensitive, sentimental, and caring. You can be possessive and clannish at times, too, particularly under stress or when insecure. Usually, you’ll bend over backward for someone you love, but you’re inclined to keep too much to yourself and eventually feel resentful if your affection is not returned in a similar manner. You’re nurturing, protective and self-protective, cautious, and fertile. You can experience many emotional ups and downs in love due to your sensitivity and impressionability. You’re tender, romantic, and attached. Cancer love is dedicated, warm, and devoted. You demonstrate your love through devotion, care, and concern. You’re affectionate and cuddly, and you’re at your very best when you feel safe and secure.
If you find yourself far too attached to the past, this prevents you from enjoying the moment. In fact, watch for a tendency to glorify the past to the point that the present is not appreciated, even though it will one day be the past!
You like to save for a rainy day and can be quite frugal with your money. However, you’ll spend the most on your family and close friends, as well as on building your home. You could find yourself often drawn to art that is traditional, homey, and romantic, but you also fully appreciate quirky, satirical, and emotionally rich creations. You hold onto things that have sentimental value and this may lead to holding onto so many things that you feel overloaded or stuck.
Something to watch for: love equals security for you, and it’s important not to overidentify with this to the point that you lose touch with your heart. Perhaps most notably, your heart takes time, so that you can linger or dwell on your attachments, even if they’re no longer viable or if they’re in your past. This also means that you rarely forget someone who once meant the world to you. You have a real tendency to dote and sometimes over-protect those you love. You’re considerate and have a soft touch that makes you especially suitable for guiding, teaching, and supporting.
Do watch for relationships that become smothering. You can be drawn to people who you deem need help, but you’re in great need of nurture and care, and this can lead to a conflict wherein both parties need specialized attention and there is only so much time in the day! This is a good position for benefits through your family, at least on financial or emotional levels. Your memory for emotional connections and moments is outstanding. Perhaps more than anything, you may need to work on a tendency to take an indirect approach to love or expressing your feelings.
Depending on other chart factors, this position suggests that you can be one of the most sensitive and sweet lovers. When you’re not pouting, you can be romantic, gooey, and sweet. You may not always feel comfortable explicitly expressing what turns you on, and you may instead expect that your lover intuits your needs. You are protective and soothing; devoted and emotional. Romantic and sentimental touches add something special to the equation. You may crave a doting type of partner, or you’re that type, depending on how much you own this part of your personality.
Venus in Leo
How do you attract things, situations, and people into your life? Venus rules our sentiments, what we value, and the pleasure we take in life. Grace, charm, and beauty are all ruled by Venus. Through Venus, we learn about our tastes, preferences, artistic inclinations, and what makes us happy. We look to Venus in the natal chart to see how we approach relationships of the heart, as well as what gives us pleasure. We also turn to Venus to show how we spend our money, the types of gifts we buy, and how much we spend on leisure activities (not to mention the kinds of leisure activities we seek). Venus rules attractiveness–both the ability to attract and attraction to others (and things). Venus rules, amongst other things, the arts, love and romance, beauty and the beautifying process, money, entertainment, leisure, sensuality, and comfort.
With your Venus in the sign of Leo, the Fixed Fire sign, you are proud and affectionate in love. This is especially the case if your Sun is in outgoing Leo, but is also true if your Sun sign is humble Virgo or retiring Cancer, in which case you’d be more demanding or colorful in love than you are in other areas of your life, or even generally speaking.
This sign position of Venus loves to court and be courted, and needs to feel very special–put on a pedestal, even. You are warm, generous, and even grand. You love to delight a partner through gifts, individual attention, and affection. Though you’re really quite loyal to a lover (love may very well be THE most important thing in Leo’s life), you thrive on romantic attention. You can show off a little to get a partner’s attention, but you’re not quite so happy when others show interest in your partner!
You’re likely to have high expectations, but if you’re getting the attention you crave from your love relationship, you’re one of the most big-hearted partners around. You may feel a little threatened by a relationship that seems a bit too settled, even though you do seek long-term stability. You want to keep the spark alive–eternally! You’re also turned off by indifferent or impersonal behavior in a partner.
While your sex drive is likely substantial, your need for love is quite a bit stronger. For you, love, affection, and attention can be at the heart of most every fantasy, even the raunchiest. You’re unlikely to last very long in a relationship that is less than loving and affectionate. On the flip side, you may stick around much longer in a love-only scenario than most.
Pleasing you in love involves treating you as unique, special, and number one. Leo wants their partner’s world to revolve around them. Perhaps most importantly, your partner should frequently remind you how important you are in their eyes. Respect, appreciate, and adore you–that’s all you ask! When insecure, you can be given to childlike moments, tantrums, tall tales, and drama. In fact, you can lose interest in a partner if you feel they’ve lost interest in you, and it’s vital that a partner reminds you that you’re attractive and desired. Watch the tendency to want to make a partner jealous, since a partner’s small jealousies can feel like affirmations that they find you attractive and a prize, not just to them but to the rest of the world as well. You will not be ignored! You can be a bit of a sucker for flattery.
When you feel appreciated and loved, you are wonderfully loyal, have a big sense of fun, and physically affectionate and demonstrative. You’re generous with your heart, attention, and money when you’re in love. You want your gifts to stand out as the best, biggest, or most thoughtful.
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Your fantasies and desires often revolve around devotion and attention. You want to be the best in your partner’s eyes! You can be quite possessive and jealous. You may put your partner to the test every now and again, and the more insecure people with this sign position will demand the world from their partners if only to have them prove their love. You may want more than anything to impress a partner. You may come on a little too strong at times, and you can get impatient quickly. However, you’re direct and open, which are desirable traits that are on the rare side, and your partner should appreciate these qualities if they’re to understand you.
Love is magnificent and grand in your eyes, and you take pride in love and your love relationships. You can be warmhearted, teasing, expressive, proud, and extravagant in your love life and with your hobbies, pastimes, and leisure time. Love is a bit of a game– a perpetual game–as Venus in Leo may be forever stuck in the romance stage of a relationship. You feed on attention, acknowledgement, validation, and adoration. Venus in Leo loves to be adored, pampered, and admired. You hold a strong ego investment in your love life. The negative expression of this placement is overstating of feelings just for effect, as well as extravagance.
Venus in Leo people may spend a lot on entertainment or sometimes only to show off! They generally are big tippers and give special and generous gifts. They’re attracted to art, furnishings, clothing, and music that is bold and passionate, renaissance, lush or opulent, lavishly comfortable, and romantic.
With Venus in Leo, you can be very proud in your social life, regarding money, and in love. You are not only loyal to someone you love, but you are also usually very loyal to your feelings. However, you can also be stubborn with your feelings due to this great pride. You stand out for being kind, and this is something about you that’s easily recognizable unless Venus is well-hidden or challenged in your chart.
Venus in Virgo
With your Venus in the earthy, mutable sign of Virgo, you’re not an especially flirtatious sort. Instead, your appeal lies in your dedication and your willingness to make a relationship work in real terms. You’re not inclined to want to impress your lovers with grand gifts or promises. Your gifts are less showy but perhaps far more generous — gifts of devotion and attention to details regarding a partner.
You’re inclined to quietly (and perhaps slowly) make your way into someone’s heart. You’re quite sensitive in love, perhaps a little insecure because you’re so aware of all of your flaws, and this reserved or loner-like quality can be part of your appeal. Even if you are confident, assertive, or flashy in other areas of your chart/life, there is a distinctly down-to-earth, practical, and service-oriented theme when it comes to love, money, and pleasures or pastimes–the main areas of life ruled by Venus. You prefer to play it safe in relationships, and you need to be confident that someone likes you before you make a move. You can be a great listener and you make it a habit to observe and learn all of the ins and outs of a person you love. You may “show” your love by nagging or criticizing, however, but you’re not typically trying to hurt someone when you’re pointing out the flaws in their thinking, plans, or even character. You truly are worried and trying to help! You may be attracted to those who are nondescript who have largely gone unnoticed. Show-offs or know-it-alls are usually turn-offs.
For a partner to please you most, they’ll let you know that they appreciate you for all the little things you do, and you do so much! The problem can be that you do these things so quietly at times that a partner may not alwasy notice or give you credit for your kind gestures. You do need some space–after all, you’re usually very busy making everything work. A partner should be genuine, not ostentatious, to grab your attention. You are really not so difficult to please, although your practicality and overthinking could make you seem that way. Even if you’re confident in other areas of life, you’re inclined to worry or fret with love and/or money, so that it’s better that a partner not push you too much. You can be a little shy about wholeheartedly expressing your affection or sharing your relationship with the world too fast. You aim to please, and you’re easily intimidated by a partner’s other or past experiences, even if you have an intellectual curiosity about them.
If a partner lets you know just how much they value you, you’ll reward them with devotion and a charming willingness to talk things out and make things work. You aim to make yourself invaluable to a lover.
My Personal Ad Bio: “I will care for you, and do lots of little things for you. I will help you.”
You express your love through practical gestures–running errands, doing detail work, giving advice, offering reminders, or just being there for someone. Love needs to make sense and have a purpose with Venus in Virgo. Virgo is an Earth sign, which is sensual but also quite practical. Your purchases and the types of entertainment you enjoy are ruled by whether or not they add practical value to your life. You’ll appreciate, more than most, a gift of a crockpot or vacuum, for example, over a bauble if you need one. You might feel guilty if you’re too self-indulgent. Venus in Virgo people often spend their money with care, and usually on practical items instead of frivolous ones.
Rendering services to others can fill a real need and can be an expression of love for you. The shadow side of this position involves being overly critical of partners, picky, or worrisome. You might over-analyze your partner’s reactions and words, as well as your love life in general.
Venus in Libra
With your Venus in the Cardinal Air sign, Libra, you impress others with your kindness, evenhandedness, and willingness to compromise — you’re ready to make your relationships work! You have a polished manner in love, which at times can give off the appearance of being insincere or superficial, but your interest in your relationships is genuine.
You are a gentle lover who hates to offend or be offended! You’re bothered by bad manners or overly direct and abrasive expressions of feelings. You not only prefer to take the middle road, you seek the middle ground in your relationships. Your partners can expect to be treated fairly, and they’re likely to fully appreciate your willingness to concede and adjust your life to fully accommodate them.
You may very well have an idealized image of your relationships, even to the point where said relationships become bigger than life, taking on a life of their own. You can become quietly resentful if you feel that you’re being taken advantage of, and it may be all too easy for more aggressive types to bully you around because you’re so fair. However, you won’t take this kind of thing for too long–you simply believe in giving others chances and will do so up to a point.
Pleasing you involves treating you kindly. You love to share everything with a partner, and a person who makes you feel comfortable enough to do so is ideal. Foreplay for you can be mental — you love to communicate with a partner about the relationship. In fact, sharing itself turns you on, and tactless or uncouth behavior is a turn-off.
Although you may seem to put up with a lot, it’s vital that a partner remain fair with you. Over time, imbalance in your relationship is sure to hit you hard and make you gravely unhappy. You might even try to even the score in subtle, roundabout ways as you instinctively seek balance before you seek an “out.” A partner would be wise not to let it come to that, and if they help you keep the scales balanced, you’ll reward them with a partner who always puts themselves in their shoes and treats them exactly how they would like to be treated.
My Personal Ad Bio: “I’m just a nice person — some say I’m too nice. I’m romantic and love good conversations. I will please you. All I ask for is fairness.”
Venus in Libra people turn first to charm and last (if at all) to aggressive behavior to get what they want. While relationships are huge to you, there can be an air of cool detachment to your demeanor. You’re very obliging with others–almost always ready and willing to negotiate and compromise–and this makes you one of the most gracious people around.
You can be especially idealistic about love. In fact, you prefer things be done the “right” way, and you’re turned off by coarse or rude behavior. On the shadow side of this position are dependency, inconsistency, and superficiality. In an attempt to avoid unpleasant situations, people with this placement can easily gloss over deeper issues at play in their relationships. As such, it’s probably good practice to avoid the trap of acquiescing to your partners but privately resenting the fact or thinking yourself a martyr for doing so, as these things can happen to the best of us but never amount to positive situations.
This is one of the more artistically-inclined of the Venus placements. You seek balance in your personal environment, and you can be quite picky or choosy when it comes to aesthetics–balanced, harmonious, classical art is preferred. You abhor gaudy, tacky, or overly “noisy” art, clothing, furnishings, and music. You can be a little picky when it comes to mood and atmosphere (Virgo is all too often assigned this trait).
You take special and extra care to please someone you love. You can be provocative in a quiet way. Your need for balance and perfection in your relationships may manifest itself at all the wrong moments, though. You may be pushed around for longer than most, perhaps only because it’s hard for you to believe that others can be unfair and it takes a while for you to recognize that it’s happening, but it will catch up to you in due time. If you’re happy and treated right, you are an amazing partner — you seem to be made for partnership, in fact. You think carefully about your loved one’s needs, and you’re supremely thoughtful and considerate. You can charm the birds out of the trees if you so please!
You should watch for focusing too much on the superficial signs of balance, harmony, and agreement. As well, watch for conforming just to avoid a confrontation, as this can lead to serious misunderstandings over time. You’re most offended by abruptness and rudeness.
You’re wonderfully approachable. It can be challenging to make up your mind since you can see the opposite side to whatever you’re considering. You love the good things in life! Beautiful scents, sensations, and views are all very important to you. Your gentleness is a gift and quite magical for someone who truly deserves you.
Venus in Scorpio
With your Venus in the Fixed Water sign, Scorpio, you attract others to you with your intensity and willingness to commit. You have a strong and concentrated manner that suggests your feelings run deep. Your actions in love have a way of promising deep commitment and sexual pleasure, even if you’re not communicating this directly.
A significant part of your appeal lies in your focus on a person you care about as well as your dedication. Venus in Scorpio seems fearless when it comes to intimacy! Potential lovers get the feeling that you will never stray, that you’re intensely loyal to the one you love. You possess a person, and somehow make it seem attractive to be possessed.
You give your complete attention to a partner and a relationship–you’re very focused on your partner. Depending on their personalities, others might find this quality unnerving or entirely flattering. Watch for a tendency to want to control your partner and the course or direction of the relationship itself. Your body-and-soul love and commitment can be so intense that it eclipses fun and makes loving you a heavy experience at times. Your emotion and intensity can seem overdone to those looking for a more light-hearted relationship.
In love, you may take things to extremes, and you can be very provocative at times. Although you want to explore all of a person’s nooks and crannies, you aren’t always as forthcoming with your own. There’s no mistaking it when a partner has disappointed you. Depending on the moment, you might blow up or choose to give the silent treatment. Either way, a slighted Scorpio lover is not a pretty sight! Watch for jealousy of a partner’s attachments, even if they’re not people. You may be holding onto a fear of being taken for a ride in matters of the heart, and you are an expert at cutting through all the fluff and seeing a person for what they are. But if this brilliant perception is mixed in with insecurity and fear, it can be skewed towards the mistrustful.
Pleasing you involves a partner demonstrating their true commitment and loyalty to you. A person made for you appreciates your guts when it comes to love and intimacy since you’re rightfully proud of your courage in these matters. They will also let you have your secrets and silences.
My Personal Ad Bio: “I’m emotional and deep. I’ll be very loyal too, forever. I’m looking for commitment. I’ll make you happy in bed.”
You’re seeking deeply passionate relations. Superficial flirtations and contacts do not satisfy, as you yearn for “body and soul” contact with someone special–contact that breaks the taboos, that is extreme and intense, and that is unforgettable. This is a highly emotional position for Venus. It is passionate, sensual, and intense energy. Your relationships are immensely important to you–you can be consumed by them, in fact, and this can be a real addiction!
Although the primary drive is toward intense closeness, blind faith in your partner may be challenging. Fears of being too vulnerable or of giving up your own power to others is strong. If you’ve been hurt in the past, you don’t want to expect it in the future, but it’s tough for you to forget. Scorpio is an “all or nothing” energy, and relationships tend to be somewhat of a rollercoaster ride as a result. Disdain for mediocrity and superficiality can compel you to create crises in order to feel alive and vital. If you’re feeling insecure, you can be hard to figure out or to get close to because you can go from one extreme of emotion to the next quite quickly. You sometimes appear very sensitive and yielding, and other times completely closed off, for example.
Your tastes in art, clothing, furnishings, and music tend to be dark, surreal, gothic, or passionate. Most of your true character lies beneath the surface, and what you choose to put on display may even be deceptive. Fashion trends mean little to you. Your sexual nature can be quite complex. You are provocative but private, and sex is profoundly intimate and personal for you.
Your feelings last! You’re passionate and rarely forget, although your all-or-nothing attitude in love does mean that once something is over, it’s truly over. However, while you can end an attachment to a person, you may dwell on the relationship experience with them for a lifetime. It’s difficult to put your feelings, which are deep and complex, to words at times.
While you enjoy people, you create ties and attachments to a select few. It’s hard for you to do things halfway or to be moderate in your interests. You love collections, and your interests can quickly become all-consuming.
You’re so perceptive and your understanding of human nature so spot-on that others might think you’re psychic. In fact, some people may fear you for that reason, but perhaps it’s best they don’t approach you if they have too much to hide.
You’re proud in love. Harmony is less important to you than enjoying a wide range of emotional experiences. It’s relatively easy for you to be addicted to a pastime, hobby, relationship, or pleasure. You can arouse strong feelings in others even without intending to do so–your personal presence is strong, and you can be quite attractive, perhaps even in an unsettling manner for some people. You’re capable of throwing yourself into a new passion quickly and entirely if it feels right. It may be true that you ask a lot from a commitment, but you also give much, and usually more!
Venus in Sagittarius
With your Venus in the Mutable Fire sign of Sagittarius, you need to feel you can grow and expand your horizons through your relationships. You want to learn new things, and experience everything together. You’re an idealistic lover and partner, and you need your loved one to appreciate your beliefs, visions, and ideals or it’s pretty much game over!
You can be a confusing mix of the lighthearted and serious. You’re a roamer and a seeker and you don’t usually commit in your relationships as easily as others. This is not because of a deficit, but due to your strong beliefs that freedom is vital, and you don’t trust something that feels conformist, forced, or unnatural. You’d prefer that your feelings grow spontaneously and organically, and that a partner’s feelings for you develop similarly.
You’re likely to turn people on with your big smile and laugh, your jokes, your grand schemes, your dreams, and your friendly, flirtatious behavior. You pride yourself on your open mind but do watch for coming across as judgmental since your opinions are strong. Turn-offs in others for you are dullness, emotional overkill, and inhibitions. You’re restless at times, and you won’t put up with partners who dwell on only one or two things or uphold rigid routines. When the going gets tough in your relationship, you can have an overwhelming desire to run away. Usually this only means getting out and experiencing something new before you come back and deal, but sometimes it can be for good. You are attracted to people who are in love with life. A person doesn’t need to be refined, polished, or graceful to win your favor.
Pleasing you involves allowing you plenty of space in the relationship to grow. A partner should avoid getting stuck in a rut, and should understand your need to move on. You don’t like to dwell on things you can’t change. Learning to laugh things off is essential, but the right partner for you should take your rants and raves seriously, avoid criticizing your beliefs, join you in debates, and philosophize along with you. They should be ready and willing to join you in your adventures however big or small. They’ll also learn to look past your occasional clumsiness with them and their feelings, and they should absolutely avoid cornering you or forcing you to commit.
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Romantic adventures, as well as a straightforward–even blunt–approach to love, are themes with Venus in Sagittarius. Truth and higher meaning are revered with Sagittarius. There can be some inconstancy and possibly a tendency to escape or flee when love is too complex, intricate, or needy. Some with this position are rather traditional in their approach to relationships, as this is a spiritual sign.
You’re usually sincere, upright, and straightforward about what you want. You enjoy getting to know a lover on a philosophical level, exchanging ideas, and experiencing interesting things together.
Venus in Sagittarius people are not always especially attached to personal possessions. They are not known to be especially frugal, although some of them equate money with freedom, and will gladly put money aside for travel. Spontaneity is at the heart of what you love, so too much planning when it comes to your pleasures and pastimes can bore you. Things that are too time-consuming or intricate may not appeal.
You have little patience with people playing hard to get or beating around the bush. The same goes for too much seriousness or romancing. You usually prefer to jump in and then talk about it after the fact, if need be.
You’re wonderfully enthusiastic, happy, and expressive. You’re also just, honest, straightforward, and brave. Companionship and friendship are important to you more than other relationship trappings. You’d rather a partner enjoy themselves and life than feel tied down. In turn, you expect a partner to want the best for you and you need a person who encourages you and your dreams. This position is not the most sentimental of Venus placements.
You’re trusting, open, and demonstrative. You need breathing room and you give others the same. Unless there are strong indicators otherwise, you’re not as attached to material things as others and you may not be particularly frugal, having a basic faith that the universe will provide you with what you need.
Venus in Capricorn
With your Venus in the Cardinal Earth sign of Capricorn, you win others’ hearts by displaying self-control, presence of mind, and responsible behavior. You project a goal-oriented, witty, savvy, and controlled image in your social life and in your love relationships. Nobody can get the best of you! When you’re interested in someone, you want them to know how competent you are. You prefer some measure of predictability in your relationships as you are cautious in love.
You project a lone wolf or competent aura that can be attractive to the right person in a cool way. You don’t go gaga over love, or at least you don’t express as much. A partner may complain that you’re a little too practical and deliberate regarding your feelings and affections. Certainly, you can come across as lacking in warmth and spontaneity at times in love. The truth is, you can have a romantic soul and yearn for a partner with whom to share your life. Others’ image of your relationship matters to you, and you can be conservative and willing to commit in time.
With your Venus in Capricorn, you could find yourself often attracted to serious, goal-oriented lovers, or this is how you project yourself to potential mates. There can be a reserved or shy side to you regarding matters of the heart, but you’d prefer not to let others know it! People who seek clarity and direction in love will appreciate you most since you offer these things in spades. You may even plan ahead in love, and you seek a structured, clear, and directed partnership.
Pleasing you generally means a partner shows you they’re practical and realistic. You want to impress your partner, and your ideal lover appreciates your “saving for a rainy day” attitude. Privately, you want to show you off to a partner in a quiet way.
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Venus in Capricorn people are usually serious about their finances. You’re likely to be talented at creating artistic structure and form, perhaps far more comfortable with these things than the more freeform elements of creativity.
You value enduring connections, reliability, and faithfulness in your love and social relationships. You take expressing your feelings seriously, and you take your time to warm up to others. Once you’re in, though, you’re all in. At least in the beginning, you keep your “cool” in relationships.
Some people with this position want to be financially stable before they settle down, as this is an expression of their commitment. However, you can fear instability, and you could have a deep fear of rejection and of not measuring up, which can also be motivators behind a strong drive to provide for yourself and loved ones. Living up to others’ expectations can also be a problem–if it is the case for you, watch that it doesn’t interfere with truly appreciating the moment.
While perhaps not the most spontaneous of partners, you are generally quite constant and true in love. You instinctively value effort and the long-term, and won’t run away from responsibility or difficulties. This is mostly because your vision of love is not unusually idealistic, and you accept realistic and practical concerns as a healthy part of any love relationship. This maturity is uncommon and most valuable!
With money, you’re on the frugal or cautious side, and you aim to save for a rainy day (you worry about stability and the future more than many). Many people with this position slowly but surely build their fortunes! You are rather discriminating in taste when it comes to entertainment, art, furnishings, music, and clothing. You’re attracted to high quality, high status, and professional objects of art, furnishing, and clothing.
You could find yourself attracted to experienced or more mature partners, or someone who’s strong, powerful, or displays some sort of authority or know-how. Sometimes this placement is associated with people who partner up for business, status, or other practical reasons. If this is the case, you can more easily than most separate the emotional and practical.
You value some measure of discretion. Capricorn is an earth sign, and you appreciate constancy and consistency. In fact, variety is often less important to you than is security. Often where Saturn and Capricorn are found in a chart, things improve as you grow older, and in this case, money, relationships, and love are fuller as you mature. In some ways, you can be considered a late bloomer, and it gives you something to look forward to. Your feelings for someone are similar–you may find all the reasons not to like a person in the beginning, but then your feelings grow slowly but surely. This may be one of the reasons why Venus in Capricorn is associated with arranged relationships. You seem resistant to new connections, perhaps because you take your relationships so seriously. You’d prefer to skip to the comfortable stage of a relationship!
This placement is often associated with binding long-term connections. Even so, you might want to watch for being too critical or possessive in your love life. You do best with a partner who encourages you and reminds you of how special you are. You can be suspicious or worried, and a trustworthy person is of utmost importance to you in love. When upset, you can be a master at giving the cold shoulder! Some may think you’re cold or unemotional, which is unlikely to be the case, but it is true that you can act quite icy when fearful, insecure, or upset. You can feel awkward when confronted with excessiveness in others, perhaps mistrusting of those who seem to need to make big displays.
There is an element of seriousness about your love life, whether it’s that you take relationships very seriously or you’re a little reserved about expressing your feelings. You have a strong sense of duty towards people you’ve welcomed into your circle, which can be select. You typically value quality over quantity and prefer fewer strong, stable connections than many frivolous ones. You are a constant, reliable, sensual, a tower of strength, and a true blue partner, and you need that a partner respects you first and foremost.
Venus in Aquarius
With Venus in Aquarius, you impress others with your open-minded, future-oriented spirit. You want potential partners to see you as unique, rebellious, and a little provocative. You are attractive when you’re a bit aloof. You want a lover to acknowledge and appreciate that you don’t follow the beaten track in matters of the heart. You may feel strongly that people can’t belong to one another, and your ideas about love and friendship may be unconventional.
You may be attracted to unusual or non-traditional relationships, or you personify these qualities, and this is how you attract who and what you want into your life. You don’t want to follow all the rules, although you may very well make quite a few of your own. You can appear quite standoffish at times, and you can be put off or threatened by restrictions of any kind. You do value predictability and longevity, but you don’t feel that people should blindly adhere to traditions and principles just because they’re in place or have served others well. You are a true individualist!
Emotional or sensitive types may be put off by your detached manner in love. You want people to love you for your intellect, and to admire your vision. You value lovers who are also good friends, and you tend to avoid emotional displays or confrontations like the plague. With your Venus in Aquarius, you may very well delight in shocking people with your unusual ways or progressive beliefs. Certainly, your tastes are out of the ordinary.
Pleasing you involves letting you know just how interesting you are. The right partner for you is one who accepts your occasional need to act superior on an intellectual level–they know you are very proud of your unique viewpoint. They will dream along with you and won’t fence you in. You need space and will happily return the favor, giving a partner lots of room to breathe and space to be themselves.
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Venus in Aquarius people are attracted to unconventionality, independence, and freedom as themes in their social relationships. Experimental relationships are intriguing. Being friends as well as lovers is essential to Venus in Aquarius.
You prefer to write your own terms when involved in a relationship, and this can be challenging for a partner, as these terms can be changeable! You may be reacting to a condition or situation of the moment, and in this way, you can be somewhat erratic. You can also be a little inconsistent with your emotions and feelings. Except for these qualities, you are one of the least selfish people in love. You give your partners freedom to be themselves, and you are rarely clinging or controlling. You’re very easygoing in this manner –a partner can appeal to your sense of reason, and you always strive to be exceptionally fair and impartial. You’re likely to be attracted to art, furnishings, clothing, and music from the past as well as the modern, abstract, and futuristic–rarely current. Your tastes can be unique, quirky, and off the beaten track. Outdated ideas and pointless traditions are pet peeves. You prefer fresh approaches to love and life, and you want people in your life to think for themselves.
You have a “take it or leave it” style that can be sexy or maddening, depending on the audience! You’re open-minded, but you can have an intellectual approach to feelings and love that comes across as cool, detached, or unemotional. You may come alive in unusual, non-traditional, long-distance, or on-and-off situations. You enjoy surprising a partner perhaps more than anything.
You are exceptionally friendly and kind but could frustrate those closest to you with your detached and impersonal approach. The very reason why friends find you invaluable can bother those who want more intimacy from you. You’re loyal and value long-term connections, and you are especially helpful, objective, non-judgmental, understanding, and fair. Because you seem so easygoing, others may be surprised to find that you can be quite stubborn and very true to yourself, perhaps at all costs.
You are attractive and quite brilliant, and others appreciate your generosity, perception, and unique perspective. People love being around you, and you get along with all sorts of people from all backgrounds. You are intellectually curious and find it easier than most to detach your feelings long enough to enjoy someone’s perspective. Perhaps you love people more in theory than in practice! You may feel a little more comfortable in groups than in one-on-one at times. You’re certainly highly observant and a perpetual student of human nature, and your partners and friends usually would describe you as “one of a kind.”
Venus in Pisces
With your Venus in the mutable, Water sign of Pisces, you attract what and who you want into your life indirectly and magically. You project yourself as a dreamy, soft-hearted partner. Everything about the way you flirt promises a lovely time. In fact, you may not even be flirting much of the time, but you still manage to leave others intrigued. Yours is an elusive charm — you can be sweetly playful, a little moody, and perhaps a little irregular. You appreciate romance and poetry or simply subtlety and pleasantness. You prefer to “feel out” both a person and the relationship you share, so it’s better if a potential partner doesn’t expect too much in the way of planning. Letting things flow spontaneously is essential to you for uncovering your feelings which are fluid and best left to develop and unfold without pressure.
Your sensitivity can be a little misleading at times. Yes, you are sensitive folk, but lovers may find it maddening that this sensitivity is not only directed at them, but towards one and all. In this way, your love can seem a bit impersonal.
You’re unimpressed by someone’s status, and you love and accept a partner for all that they are inside. You favor the underdog, and you can be quite attracted to wayward folk or those in need of a little help. With your rather romantic view of the world, you can be unusually attracted to states of suffering and martyrdom, so you may fall easily into the role of saving someone–or of being saved. For you, inequality can be appealing! You can be somewhat confusing and hard to pin down as you feel your way through your relationships. As much as you may want to, you find it hard to make definite statements and commitments. This is not to say you can’t be loyal or stick with someone in the long-term, since you very much can; it’s just that you have such a strong sense of the changeability of people and circumstances that you don’t like to make promises that life itself may not allow you to keep.
A partner pleases you most when they share tender moments and romantic times with you. The person who’s right for you accepts that they won’t always be able to count on you, not because you don’t care, but because you prefer some element of mystery and prefer not to be boxed in. They understand that you might stretch the truth every once in a while because they recognize that you do so usually for fear that you might otherwise hurt their feelings. In fact, you hate to see someone you love suffer. Watch, though, that things don’t become convoluted. Your empathy and compassion are well-developed, so much so that that you can quickly find yourself in complicated emotional entanglements. Your ideal partner lets you leave some things up in the air, too. In truth, you may have a love affair going with the idea of being misunderstood! You are so receptive and open to all possibilities that it is hard for you to commit to any one thing, idea, or course of action. You make an intriguing partner and will reward your partner with a love that is accepting and comes as close to unconditional as humans can get.
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Pisces never sees the world in black-and-white terms–they see all the colors of the rainbow. With the goddess of love in Pisces in your chart, love for you is all-embracing. You forgive and understand, you’re seducible and seductive, and you show tremendous compassion. Venus in Pisces is tender and affectionate, although hard to reach nevertheless, as there is a longing for something that is hard to define and hard to satisfy. Borders and boundaries blur under Venus in Pisces. The shadow side of this position is allowing oneself to be victimized or deluded, as well as evasiveness. The first instinct with Pisces is to escape. You might watch for a tendency to want to fade out of a relationship if you’re unhappy so that you can avoid the confrontation. You may be unclear both about the beginning and end of a connection!
You might often be attracted to situations of giving, martyrdom, and mercy. You may want very much to forgive, allow, and give unselfishly. Because this is not always possible — you’re only human after all! — there can be problems with seeing a lover or a relationship accurately, and you run the risk of building resentments for being put upon or used.
In love, Venus in Pisces gives a lot, but not everything. Most important to remember is this: it’s a mistake for your lover to assume you are weak, but it’s also a mistake to assume you are strong in love–you are both. The message is: it’s best not to push you beyond your limits because although it might appear that you have none, you do draw the line at some point. Others shouldn’t take advantage of your good nature and willingness to make sacrifices. You see your willingness to forgive and understand as a strength, and the right partner should too.
You are entirely subtle, and you don’t care much for coarseness. You’re forgiving and bending, and you’re generally willing to please. At times romantic and gooey, you can be a bit of a chameleon, and it can be hard to pin you down to any one style. You can be talkative one day and withdrawn the next, for example. You often prefer non-verbal expressions of love and are attracted to imbalance. Self-sacrifice and compassion are more prominent themes in your love life, and perhaps in the kinds of art and entertainment you find most appealing, too. You are forgiving, and you’ll even let someone go if they so desire, and then love them forever anyway. Although you can be shy and yielding, a partner can sometimes find you maddeningly detached and spaced.
As much as you love people, you also need your space, and for that reason, you value solitude and privacy. You need to learn to receive as much as you give.