Sample Love Styles Report: About Her

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LoveStyles: About Her Chart Interpretation for Anne Heche

Introduction

This LoveStyles report examines various factors in your natal chart, Anne, in terms of love, romance, partnership, and sexuality.

You may note that some of the following descriptions appear to contradict each other–and indeed we are all walking bundles of contradiction. If you examine yourself carefully, you will probably realize that you do in fact possess the qualities of both conflicting descriptions. Even though some parts of the reading may seem to clash, you will see that certain themes are repeated throughout the following pages. These are the ones that will become major issues in your life.

The readings stress that you are the ultimate decider of your fate. The stars may indicate the hand you were dealt at birth, but it is up to you to play that hand well enough to achieve your goals. Also, bear in mind that every “bad” aspect of a chart also has a “good” side. How it is expressed is really up to you. We tend to work at expressing ourselves more positively most of the time and only lapse into the negative behavior described when depressed, angry or scared. Or it is possible that some aspects may better describe your personality or behavior earlier in life. They may seem alien now because you have already worked through them.

A “Strength” number precedes each aspect description; this number takes into account how exact the aspect is, whether the aspect is a major or minor one, and whether an aspecting planet is close to one of the four chart angles. The higher the Strength, the more you are likely to feel the aspect and to act it out in your life.

Anne Heche

Sunday, May 25, 1969 4:51:00 PM

Cleveland, Ohio

Time Zone: 04:00 (EDT)

Longitude: 081° W 41′ 44″

Latitude: 41° N 29′ 58″

In Your Element

Comparing the elements of the Moon, Venus, and Mars.

The Moon represents our feeling nature-the world of emotions. Venus represents our romantic nature, and Mars represents our desire nature. When these planets are in different signs, we may send out conflicting messages concerning what we feel we need, like, and want!

The 12 signs of the zodiac are divided into 4 groups, called elements. The following paragraphs examine your Moon, Venus, and Mars signs with respect to the elements Fire, Earth, Air, and Water.

Moon in Virgo, Venus in Aries

Emotional Earth, Romantic Fire

Although when you begin dating a person, you do so with plenty of enthusiasm and even gutsiness, your deepest emotional needs are for security and stability. Your romantic bravado hides a sensitive and practical emotional nature. You can be torn between the need for a “regular”, stable existence and the desire for romantic excitement and adventure. On the one hand, a relationship that has “settled” is appealing to you, because it feeds your emotional needs for endurance, certainty, and stability. Too settled, however, and you feel unappreciated. Attention on a romantic level is extremely important to you, but if a relationship is too “exciting” or unsettled, you feel insecure. Ideally, your partner offers you both commitment and romantic excitement. You need your romantic fires stoked, and if they are, you are a solid and loyal companion.

Venus in Aries, Mars in Sagittarius

Romantic Fire, Fiery Desires

You readily throw yourself into the burning passion of the moment. Spontaneous both romantically and sexually, you value directness in a lover. You need to keep the flames of romance going or you quickly burn out in a relationship. You are romantically and sexually adventurous, active, and forthright. Your innocently blunt approach to love and sex is apparent. This trait can be a huge turn-on to partners who value directness, and it can be intimidating to more sensitive lovers. Your sexuality is largely uncomplicated. You can be outspoken when your sexual interest is aroused.

You are warm, playful, and enthusiastic. When in love, you are totally involved in your heart, mind, and soul. Crushes feed your spirit, and you are constantly looking for inspiration from a lover–a trait that can exhaust some lovers! You have a big appetite, both for love and sex. Never pretentious, you say it like it is, and treat sex almost like a sport. You thrive on attention from your lover.

Planets in Signs and Houses

Sun in Gemini

“I wish you wouldn’t keep appearing

And vanishing so suddenly

You make one quite giddy!”

This time it vanished quite slowly,

beginning with the end of the tail,

and ending with the grin,

which remained for some time

after the rest of it had gone.

–Lewis Carroll

Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland

Like the Cheshire cat that Alice encountered in Wonderland, Geminis are very unpredictable and constantly changing. The sign is ruled by Mercury, and the metal of the same name is also known as Quicksilver. If you’ve ever tried to grab a ball of liquid Mercury, you can understand how elusive Geminis are.

The Gemini personality is ever-changing, and it may seem as though there are at least two people inhabiting his or her body. Geminis seem to buzz with energy and are constantly on the move, usually handling several different projects at once. They need variety and change in their life, and they should never choose an occupation that involves redundant or repetitive work. Natives of this sign love to communicate and probably talk a lot. They enjoy intellectual discourse, are often masters at debate, and are usually well-informed and well-read. They often have a talent for and a desire to write. Open communication is very important to them in their relationships.

The older they get, the younger Geminis seem to grow. They never lose their impish smile and youthful attitude toward life. And they often get along quite well with children. Like a child, Geminis do not often engage in introspection. It takes a drastic situation to get them to sit down and probe their own motives. Geminis are often more aware of others’ inner workings than their own.

Geminis have an insatiable appetite for knowledge and take great delight in new discoveries. They also enjoy traveling and can learn a great deal from journeys to other parts of the world. Since they do like to chase all the lovely butterflies that fly past them in life, they can often be unreliable and have a problem meeting commitments. In fact, Geminis find such responsibility to be somewhat scary. There’s always something newer and more exciting just around the next corner.

Gemini women will try anything at least once. They appreciate lovers who have brains, who are flexible, and who don’t take life too seriously.

Sun in the Eighth House

Intensity

This house placement of the Sun gives you Scorpio qualities, whether you have any planets in Scorpio or not.

No one can accuse you of being superficial. Intensity attracts you like moth to flame. A deeply sensual person, you are also drawn to games of power on a sexual level. You understand that your life is one grand transformation after another, and you accept that this is how it should be. As a child you probably shocked adults with your deeply probing questions and wise comments, and as a woman, you may do the same with a lover!

Sexual expression and physical intimacy are very important to you. You can read more from a partner’s tender embrace than from a long conversation. You rely more on your gut level emotional “vibes” than on intellectual discourse when “feeling out” your partner. You enjoy being the one in control in a relationship and must be careful not to manipulate your partner into a submissive role. At other times, you may don a submissive role. The key here is that you tend to have a hard time relating to a partner on an equal level, as power and control are powerfully seductive for you.

Persons with this house placement often are attracted to lovers who are many years their senior or junior. In this type of relationship, the younger partner benefits from the acquired knowledge and experience of the older. Whatever partner you choose, your relationship will be characterized by intensity and depth of emotion. Superficial coupling simply doesn’t appeal to you.

Moon in Virgo

You are kind, helpful, and sometimes rather self-effacing. There is a natural shyness about you, and a distinct love of simplicity. You may be easily intimidated on a sexual level. You aim to please, but it can take some time for you to come into your own on a sexual level. In youth, you worry a lot about measuring up. You are extremely “body aware”, and if this awareness combines with a lack of self-confidence, you may be TOO aware of the parts that make up the whole. This can lead to a tendency to be intensely self-critical. With time and experience, you begin to come out of your shell. You have a lot to give a partner.

When you relax and feel secure with someone, your earthy sensuality comes through. It can take time before you do, indeed, feel secure with a partner, as you tend to worry, sometimes excessively, about the future. Over-analyzing seems to be as natural to you as breathing. One drawback of this placement is the tendency to suffer in silence through unsatisfying relationships. This only prolongs the misery and creates bitterness in the relationship. Don’t be afraid to speak up when you are feeling unhappy. It’s no fun being a martyr.

With the Moon in an earth sign, security and certainty are what comfort you in your personal relationships. Without these very important “ingredients”, you can never feel content, nurtured, supported, or loved. Your motto is “actions speak louder than words”. You need a partner who makes a real effort to be with you.

Moon in the Eleventh House

Your friends mean a lot to you, and you rely on them for support and encouragement. It is important that your friends are trustworthy, and you often become friends with your friends’ friends, keeping to the circle that you feel comfortable with. Your closest friends are likely to be women.

At times those around you may feel that you are being aloof and even cool. You are actually just being objective, and whether you are attentive or detached may depend largely on your mood. Some may consider you a child emotionally, regardless of your age. You need to feel a sense of belonging to a group or community in order to feel comfortable and nurtured in life.

You will do all you can to assist your lover in the climb to the top. This may seem like a selfish motivation on your part, but in reality you do want the very best for your loved ones. You thrive on an active social life, so it is important that your partner is rather unselfish and allows you your emotional freedom. You can be quirky at times, and your partner must understand this quality and appreciate it! Your occasional moods of emotional aloofness, and your attachment to your friends, may be interpreted as threatening to some lovers.

Mercury in Gemini

Mercury is the natural ruler of Gemini and is very comfortable in this sign. You have a clear, rational mind as well as a sharp wit and sense of humor. Your imagination is very active, and it is imperative that you do not allow yourself to become bored intellectually. Your intellect is well-developed and you may have natural linguistic abilities. Since you have a knack for communication, others will find you to be a stimulating conversationalist.

Your mind moves so fast that you must sometimes slow it down deliberately. Otherwise, you may tend to overwork your mind and may even risk nervous breakdown. Although you are very curious and quick to grasp new concepts, you must develop patience with others who are slower to understand. Also be careful not to speak too quickly in anger without thinking your words over carefully. You can do great damage with hurtful words when you are angry. In fact, even when you are being playful, your wit may be interpreted as insensitive.

You very much enjoy relating to others and communicating your ideas. Others may see you as a “chatterbox” because you talk rather quickly and abundantly. Your partner may not be able to get a word in edgewise sometimes! However, you are naturally curious and interested. The lack of heart behind what you say and think can be frustrating to more personal communicators. Your lovers need to understand that sometimes you just enjoy talking for the sake of talking. They should try not to take things too personally. You are an interested and interesting conversationalist, but you can also be quite detached, easily discarding or ignoring more personal issues. You don’t get attached to your opinions and ideas for too long, and the result is a changeability and coolness that can be frustrating to others. On the other hand, your curiosity and willingness to adapt to the environment around you often endears you to others. Because you possess a versatile mind, your lover won’t have much of a problem convincing you to change your mind!

Mercury in the Eighth House

Always reading between the lines, your mind is investigative. You tend to see the negatives when you analyze any given situation, and your tendency towards resentment and suspicion as far as motivation is concerned can cause you some problems with your lovers. You spend a lot of time thinking about sex, and you are turned on by what is said between the sheets.

Venus in Aries

“To be alive is to be burning.” (N. Brown)

With Venus in Aries, you have a naive, impulsive approach to love. If you are not careful to take time to get to know someone, you may marry on a whim. Since you tend to act impulsively in relationships, you can sometimes be inconsiderate of the feelings of others.

Although you are romantic, you are not necessarily subtle. You seek immediate gratification of your needs–in effect, you move in for the kill. If a potential lover shows no interest, you will not wait around until they do. You approach each new love with enthusiasm and joy, enjoying every moment for itself.

Because you are harder to “tie down” than the average person, you would be better off with a lover who is more stable and patient than you. They would serve as an anchor to keep you still long enough to appreciate being grounded in a love relationship. They must be able to see that you are not really fickle, but rather childishly enthusiastic about life.

You are “in love with love” and are frequently disappointed when your torrid romances don’t last. Instead of jumping into relationships head first, you should learn to be patient and really get to know your partner before giving your heart away. It would be best for you to choose a partner who is more cautious than you are and to let him set the pace of the relationship.

You flirt by being up-front, direct, and even daring. Your style of expressing love can be maddeningly “me”-centered, but the right person for you will find this approach charming. Your aura of innocent charm can be a real turn-on, even when you are being childish and impatient.

You are turned on by energy and activity. Turn-offs include a relationship that you consider stuffy or too “mature”, vagueness, and beating around the bush. In love, you can be hopelessly addicted to the conquest. In order for a relationship to remain fresh and new for you, you require plenty of stimulation.

Pleasing you involves fueling your need for action. You don’t like game-playing or evasiveness, unless it is in the complete spirit of fun. Your lover needs to feed your need for spontaneity, and appreciate your playfulness. You tend to like to take the lead in love. You love the idea of “winning over” a lover. If they don’t like you right away, no problem! In fact, all the better.

With Venus in a Fire sign, you expect your lover to inspire you. You feed off this energy, and attention is the most important “ingredient” in a satisfying love relationship.

Venus in the Seventh House

You live for relationships. It is hard for you to think about being alone. Harmony is most important to you, so it is unlikely you will attempt to dominate a lover. You are a peacemaker, sometimes going to great lengths to achieve a balanced, harmonious relationship. Be careful not to bend over backwards just to keep the peace-you may be taken advantage of. Your marriage partner may be especially attractive and/or wealthy. You, yourself, are extremely attractive and charming.

Mars in Sagittarius

You are most impressed with a man who is playful, fun, intelligent, and honest. An energetic, happy aura surrounding him is most appealing. Joking around is a must, and a huge turn-on for you! You want to have a good time, and to have long conversations with your man as well. You are not especially attracted to men who are overly groomed; you generally don’t like too much “decoration” or men who put on airs. A tousled, casual appearance is just fine with you–in fact, it’s preferred. A man’s status is not of huge interest to you–you are looking for honest guys whose egos aren’t tied up in what they do for a living or how they look.

With the exception of the above preferences, you generally don’t have a “type”. Philosophically, you understand that humans are all the same no matter what background, race, or culture.

You are an independent thinker and enjoy a good philosophical “discussion.” You can become very excited when telling a good story and must be careful that you do not exaggerate too much when relating your adventures. It would be good to work some of this mental energy out through physical outlets. Also, remember that most people are not used to your brutal honesty and would prefer that you use tact when speaking your mind.

Because you tend to jump into any affair with vigor, you may need to develop more patience for engaging in prolonged foreplay and building up the anticipation before rushing into sex. However, you love to “wing it”, and planning ahead is somewhat of a turn-off. Since you are very enthusiastic about sex, you need a partner who is similarly inclined. You have a talent for cheering up your lover when he or she is down, and you set a good example with your optimism and zest for life. It is important that your partner has a philosophical outlook on life and holds strong principles. This will attract you more than anything else.

Your direct, blunt approach is most obvious in bed. You’re a passionate lover, and you’re turned on by open-mindedness and good humor. You are not usually patient when sex gets too intricate or serious. You treat sex somewhat like a sport. You are direct and forthcoming with your desires and needs. You have an almost innocent frankness about you, and you love to have fun in bed. Laughing and roughhousing are huge turn-ons. You can actually be a bit selfish in sex, and your need to “get off” will almost always be expressed. Games are acceptable for you, just as long as they are not too time-consuming or intricate. You have little patience with people playing hard to get or beating around the bush. The same goes for too much seriousness or romancing. The best way to approach sex with these people is to just do it, and then talk about it after the fact, if need be.

Mars in the Second House

Some level of “ownership” plays a role in your sexual preferences. Somewhat possessive, you are also very sensual and physical. The world of the five senses, and in particular touch and smell, are powerful stimulants for you.

North Node in the Sixth House

In past lives you have sought to escape responsibility through drugs or alcohol and/or by becoming helpless so that others must take care of you. Now it is your turn to be of service to others. You are a natural born healer, although you may not be aware of this gift. At some point in this life you will work with hospitals or other institutions dedicated to serving the needs of society.

The Fifth House

The Fifth House describes energy flow involving the structure of your private environment. This includes the stimulation provided by your friends, social network, offspring, and entertainment. Aquarius is on the cusp of this house, so it is ruled by Uranus. Uranus in Virgo is disposited by Mercury.

Aquarius Fifth House Cusp

You are attracted to unusual and experimental lovers. You love the concept of remaining good friends with your lovers.

The Seventh House

The Seventh House relates to building the self that you present to the public world. It therefore covers legal definitions of the self such as marriage and partnerships. It controls your characteristic public self-expression. Aries is on the cusp of this house, so it is ruled by Mars. Mars in Sagittarius is disposited by Jupiter.

Libra Ascendant, Aries Descendant

You believe in justice and peace, and are forever trying to bring these forces into play in your life. When in balance, you are delightful to be with–gracious, good- natured and with a good sense of humor. With Libra rising, you are attractive, charming, refined and cheerful. You enjoy socializing with friends in pleasant surroundings, and usually come to functions well- dressed. You deplore rudeness or vulgarity and always have time to listen to the concerns of a friend. You are an equally good conversationalist and are rarely at a loss for words.

You are a very romantic and sensual lover. In your lovemaking you delight in all the trappings–incense, perfume, satin sheets. Physically, you are generally attractive and wear a pleasant, warm expression.

More than anything, you are drawn to a partner who is direct and straightforward, and who is able to take the lead. With Aries on your Descendant, you may literally be drawn to Aries people or those with Aries strong in their chart. You are in love with love, but you tend to need a partner who is enthusiastic and even bold in order to help open you up, as you often take a passive role in relationships. Over the course of your life, you learn much about yourself through your partnerships. You feel somewhat incomplete without a special “other”. Wherever you go, you tend to want to have a companion by your side.

The Ascendant-Descendant axis can point to imbalances that play out in close one-to-one relationships, in which we encounter our “shadow” in a partner. If you feel mistreated in your partnerships, you are likely over-identifying with your Libra Ascendant persona as a pleasant, agreeable, and compromising person. Not standing your ground can pull out aggressive tendencies in your partner. Take responsibility for the decisions you make and state your case in order to avoid this potential conflict.

Pay special attention to the interpretations in this report that involve Mars, as these traits are directly related to partnership.

Venus in the Seventh House

Saturn in the Seventh House

You find it difficult to express your feelings, even to your most intimate loved ones, although you have a strong need to relate to others. You are extremely cautious about marriage because you are looking for that perfect mate. You may gain status and security through marriage. Usually indicates at least one difficult break-up of a relationship or marriage. You may marry late in life or choose a partner much older.

Planets in Aspect

Venus opposite Ascendant (Strength: 6.45)

You enjoy a good reputation with others and are willing to make compromises in order to keep peace. You accept people’s faults and are not quick to judge others who disappoint you. In fact, you may at times be overly optimistic about others’ good qualities and may see them as being more virtuous than they really are.

Your friends speak very highly of you to others, and they probably have a higher opinion of your better qualities than you do. In fact, you need such friends around you for moral support. Although you seem to be self-confident, you tend to be shy around those whom you consider to be superiors.

Others’ approval is very important to you, and you will go out of your way to see that people like you (although you are never obvious or obnoxious about it–you are too refined for that). You never set out to threaten others’ positions and instead sometimes feign ignorance in order to allow someone else to shine. Your greatest fear among your peers is that they will discover how insecure you really are.

You constantly seek new ways to elevate your social status and therefore prefer to associate with people who have either reached the top or are on their way up. You like to surround yourself with the rich and famous and do not mind using the status of others to help raise your own.

You can sometimes do dances around your lover’s feelings, as you hate to disappoint someone or hurt their feelings.

Venus square Midheaven (Strength: 6.29)

You have an active social life, and you enjoy spending time with your friends and loved ones. The approval of others is important to you, and you are willing to compromise a great deal in order to avoid conflict. This is an admirable trait, as long as you don’t give up more than you want to in the name of peace. Since early in life, you’ve had a talent for attracting others who can take care of you. You can be somewhat temperamental in love. At different points in your life, your career may suffer (or flourish) as a direct result of your personal life. Whatever the case, your love life is often tied up with your reputation, for better or for worse.

Moon conjunct Pluto (Strength: 4.74)

Your love nature is a deep and intense one, and you will seek a committed relationship rather than waste your time on superficial ones. Since your feelings are so deep, you seek someone who can respond on the same level. This may present problems at times when others who are not so strong emotionally are threatened by the intensity of your feelings. Once you are in love, you are prone to become possessive and demanding. If you should be rejected, it will affect you much more deeply than it would most others. Rejection brings up intense, primal feelings in you. It is one of your deepest fears. You are not always in control of your emotions, and are forever searching for the ideal lover who will fulfill you.

You experience much inner turmoil, emotional angst, and transformations. What you feel, you feel deeply, on a primal level. You need outlets for your intense emotions. At different points in your life, you struggle with feelings of jealousy, fear of rejection, and a deep feeling of being alone in the world.

Your sex drive is quite high, and you may find yourself held captive in emotionally unfulfilling relationships that have a hot sexual component. Even if the sex is wonderful, you will not be satisfied until you also possess your partner’s heart and soul. You want complete and total commitment and you find it hard to settle for anything less.

Your emotions fluctuate from one extreme to the other– always hot or cold, with little in between. Superficiality is not your bag, and in time you will learn to concentrate most of your energy on those relationships that provide the depth you crave. If you are lucky enough to find the ideal mate, you will reach depths of emotional and spiritual growth that are rarely known by others. It is common with this aspect for you to search most of your life for the perfect love only to discover one day that it is someone you have known for years. Sometimes this realization comes too late.

You will do anything in the name of love, and for this reason others may take advantage of you. Because you are aware of this weakness, you become defensive in your personal relationships.

Emotional satisfaction for you runs deep and is very complex. You yearn for intensity, but at the same time you may fear your own emotional nature, leading you to take great pains to keep it under wraps. Compulsiveness is a byproduct, and you find yourself easily swayed by your emotional yearnings and desires. The desire to merge with another human being is strong, yet can also be a fear at the same time.

You are a born psychologist, understanding the inner workings of those with whom you come into contact. It’s as if you have emotional feelers, and this trait can be used for and against yourself. When used constructively, you are able to heal others by helping them come to terms with what motivates them, what they fear, and what they may be doing that is self-destructive. This process, of course, can occur only after you have begun work on the very same issues within yourself. On a more negative note, if you are overcome with insecurity, you may size others up with a negative slant. You may imagine more sinister motivations than may actually be the case. This possibility stems from your own fears of loss and betrayal. If you expect to be wronged, you could easily “see” traits in others that may not even exist.

It is very possible that you were especially sensitive to your maternal figure’s emotions, and picked up on her feelings of being overpowered, overwhelmed, resentful, or mistrustful. A strong love-hate attachment to her, or crises surrounding your experience of her, may be something that you live with and it could be undermining you in some manner. Some people with this aspect feel the need for early independence from their mother or families in order to feel released from the intense and conflicting emotions they attach to them. However, removing themselves entirely from the problem may not be a healthy, long-term answer on a psychological level. At some point, confronting early childhood conditioning is a necessary process. You may find that you can use music as a means by which you can express and release the emotional drama inside of you.

Fear of loss and rejection can lead you to hold on very tightly to the people you love. It will be important for you to learn to loosen the reins you have on those you hold dear so that they don’t feel smothered or trapped. If it goes too far, it can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you find yourself trying to control your emotions and the emotions of those around you, you might ask yourself what it is that you fear within yourself. Obsessive-compulsive behavior can be a serious by-product of your own fears of abandonment.

The superficial is not enough for you. You hunger for emotional experience and you want “more” from life than simply living on automatic pilot. At some point in your life, you are likely to be attracted to psychology, although you tend to trust your own instincts and experience more than you do the theories of experts.

Moon inconjunct Venus (Strength: 4.59)

This aspect shows that you sometimes give greater importance to the needs of others than to your own. You seem to be the first to make concessions, even though others are not expecting you to. You are not able to judge your own worth and the worth of others because of your intense emotional reactions. You need to detach yourself emotionally and then logically decide how competent and valuable you are.

Because you are naturally self-effacing and submissive, you attract others who take advantage of your lack of self-worth. If it seems to you that others are constantly taking advantage of you, just remember that they cannot take anything from you that you do not freely give. In other words, you must simply learn to say “no” to others’ needs more often and “yes” to your own.

Your extreme desire to please others can obscure your perspective of fairness. Don’t allow coworkers to dump their unwanted duties and responsibilities on you, and don’t be afraid to speak up when someone tries to take advantage of you. Remember to make it clear that you deserve to be compensated for your time and effort, and don’t allow others to keep expecting you to help them as a favor.

In love relationships, you seem to attract partners who constantly demand that you prove your love to them. This often puts you, a “giver,” in relationships with “takers.” Again, remember to keep the scale more balanced in your dealings with others. Otherwise, you’ll only end up feeling used, and you’ll be right.

The road to being treated fairly is paved by standing up for yourself. The challenge for you, however, is developing the faith to do it with conviction. Yes, you do stand up for yourself, but you so quickly forgive that others don’t take it too seriously. Therefore, you need to empower yourself with conviction that you deserve better treatment!

You are a giver in bed. You aim to please, and you can be very tender, romantic, and warm.

Pluto sextile Midheaven (Strength: 3.91)

Your deep inner strength is evident to others who do not share the same quality, and you may find that many come to you for advice and guidance. Quite often, you are able to help someone who is in a crisis situation, and you very much enjoy assisting him or her. Just remember that everyone is entitled to reject as well as accept your advice. Don’t get too attached to solving other people’s problems. Ultimately, they are responsible for their own lives.

You have the ability to see through a person’s outer pretenses and discover their true motivations.

Mercury opposite Mars (Strength: 3.87)

Your mind is quick and sharp. Your words can truly bite and sting, so be careful not to say something you will regret during lovers’ spats. You will never turn down an opportunity for a debate-debates invigorate you! You need a lover who understands that debates and arguments are often games to you, not much more. Others may resent your intellectual capability, and these are often the people you attract!

You sometimes exude an air of superiority, and you don’t mean to. However, this can cause others to act defensively toward you. Learn to compromise in order to avoid confrontations. Try not to be so easily baited into an argument with a lover. Try to leave debates for the appropriate situations. Mind you, the right partner for you finds your mind exciting, and is turned on by your feistiness. You tend to love profanity.

You are good at finding fault in anything. Again, this is a game for you, and you need to remind more sensitive lovers of this fact. Be careful not to jump to conclusions in your dealings with others. Learn to listen to their side of the story before forming an opinion. This will decrease your chance of alienating them–and you may even find that they have something to teach you. Guard against your own tendency to be defensive. This will allow you to make a good impression on others, which will benefit you in the long run.

Sometimes this aspect suggests that you attract partners who tend to pick on you, nag you, and criticize you.

You tend to be restless and prone to boredom. You need a partner who can keep up with your lightning responses to your environment-and one who truly understands your love of intellectual competition and sparring.

Venus inconjunct Pluto (Strength: 2.97)

You are prone to excess in relationships, driven by your needs for acceptance and intensity. You want a relationship to be all-consuming, yet you also fear being consumed! If your partner is not showing intense interest in you, you fear the loss of partnership. You may resort to all sorts of “tactics” to keep yourself in your lover’s consciousness. It is easy for you to be misled by partners who lavish affection on you. You may encounter lovers who demand that you demonstrate your love for them physically. Don’t fall for this line; learn to protect your own interests.

You have tremendous sexual energies and are not often “wasted” following a sexual encounter. Although this may leave you feeling that something is missing, try to see your leftover sexual energy as a head start on future enjoyment. You need to practice patience in bed. In some situations you may try to use sex to manipulate or control others, and you would probably succeed. You should resist the temptation to use your power this way.

If you find your relationships tend to be obsessive or tumultuous, you might want to examine why you are attracting these scenarios. You fear the loss of affection, and rejection touches you deeply, so you may find yourself doing everything you can to keep this from happening. You may end up very suspicious of your partner because of these fears.

You are likely to come face to face with your “dark side” through your partnerships. Domination and submissiveness are themes in your partnerships. Your love life can be somewhat of an emotional rollercoaster ride. Problems with self-esteem are at the root of attracting people who tend to dominate you. You often feel you get the short end of the stick, but it is important to examine whether you might be attracting these situations due to your own negative expectations or a feeling that it is simply your lot in life.

Pleasure and pain seem to be experienced at once in your relationships. Love for you is erotic and intense-even overwhelming. Anything less would not satisfy you. Becoming obsessed with your lover is a real possibility, as is the tendency to attract lovers who are demanding, controlling, and manipulative.

Jupiter sextile Neptune (Strength: 2.97)

You are an idealist when it comes to people. Your perspective on life is broad, and you have a natural, inherent understanding of human nature. You expect the best from people, and you sometimes see the world, and the people in it, as you want to see it. Naturally, when things go wrong, you can feel somewhat disheartened. You have a tendency to wear your heart on your sleeve – an admirable quality. You want to believe that your lovers have good intentions. Often they do, but they are only human.

Moon sextile Midheaven (Strength: 2.65)

You are extremely sensitive and very conscious of how your actions affect others emotionally. For this reason, people trust you and confide in you, sharing their most personal secrets. You will gain your greatest insight in life by trusting and following your intuition rather than by analyzing everything intellectually.

Sun trine Uranus (Strength: 2.49)

Your personal magnetism makes you a pleasure to be around, and your understanding of people attracts many to you. You have an uncanny ability to tell when someone needs your help. Unconsciously, you project your own positive energy toward those who are down. You are always willing to listen to others’ hardships, and you give generously of yourself.

Not afraid to be different, you naturally express yourself in unique-even inspiring-ways. You are progressive, unpretentious, and you easily relate to people from all walks of life. Because you are generally open-minded, fair, and non-judgmental, others generally appreciate and respect you. Your life story is an interesting one, simply because you invite unusual or adventurous experiences into your life. You take most things in stride, and you are rarely shocked by human behavior.

In love relationships you openly express your feelings and need a partner who is similarly inclined. Your partner will benefit from your optimism and enthusiasm for life. You deal well with emotional changes in a relationship and may have to be understanding if your partner does not. You are highly imaginative and inventive in lovemaking. Open to experiment, not much surprises you or takes you aback. Your enthusiasm and open-mindedness are traits that others usually find extremely attractive.

Jupiter conjunct Pluto (Strength: 2.31)

You literally want to get all the gusto out of life that you possibly can. Your tremendous drive and ambition make it impossible for you to be satisfied with less than what you want in life. As a matter of fact, you can grow very impatient with delays in obtaining your goals. You do not accept the possibility of defeat, and have an unwavering determination to be all that you can possibly be. You ask things of yourself that no one else would dream possible, and you inspire envy in those around you who are less motivated.

Growth potential is extremely important to you in all areas of life, including relationships. If a relationship is not clearly moving forward, offering you ways to grow and expand your mind, then you really have no use for it. You will look for a mate who is as ambitious and growth-oriented as you are. You would not be happy with a “wimp” because you could not respect their lack of inner strength. The relationship should be one of mutual admiration, with each partner encouraging the other to achieve his or her goals.

Jupiter conjunct Uranus (Strength: 2.18)

You are optimistic about your future and are creative in developing your talents to your best advantage. You have a strong respect for knowledge and education and have an insatiable appetite for new information. You understand that knowledge empowers as well as liberates the mind and admire those who have attained a high level of intellectual skill.

Even as a child you had more than an average ability to absorb information, and you probably grew up in an environment that encouraged education, directly or indirectly. You are quick to recognize opportunities when they present themselves and are eager to grow and learn. You take a somewhat philosophical approach to life and see a larger meaning behind every occurrence. You surround yourself with others who share your attitudes about life and are generous to a fault with your friends. You require a love partner who is as excited about each daily development in the world as you are and who shares your view of the future.

Sun conjunct Mercury (Strength: 1.69)

You have very strong opinions and don’t hesitate to state them without being asked. This can be irritating to people, especially since you tend to dismiss their own opinions as unimportant. You usually have the first and last word in any discussion. In your haste to be first, you may make decisions prematurely. This means you may have to retract what you’ve said later, and this is not easy for you. You don’t like to admit you were wrong and can be very self-centered.

You are creative and could be a good leader if you would take the time to make good decisions. You need to take others’ needs into consideration and to learn a little humility. At times you can be something of a “know-it-all,” which can be very annoying to others. Try to cultivate some objectivity.

Communication comes naturally for you, and you can express yourself articulately. You love to give orders but may become frustrated if they are not followed. You are not above intimidating others to get their support. Express this aspect more positively by inspiring rather than threatening others. Your enthusiasm can be infectious, and you can work well with the public. You are good at making and carrying out plans.

In your love life, be careful of your tendency to misinterpret your partner’s signals. Try to see yourself through their eyes during times of misunderstanding. Your partner should be able to take your directness and lack of diplomacy. You speak straight from the heart.

Neptune trine Midheaven (Strength: 1.37)

You are very sensitive emotionally, and you are usually shy until you’re gotten to know and trust someone. Others are surprised to find that it’s easy to hurt your feelings with no more than a few harsh words (at least until you learn to trust them). Quite often, you put your needs aside in order to help someone who is less fortunate. You do your best to live your spiritual ideals, and could excel in fields such as health care, religion, social work or public relations.

Material success is not nearly as important to you as achieving your spiritual and humanitarian goals. In fact, you avoid accumulating excessive belongings, because the responsibility of caring for such stuff restricts your freedom. You are very caring and generous toward others (especially family and loved ones).

Even as a young child, you had a strong interest in metaphysical sciences and the supernatural. You are highly intuitive and may have natural psychic abilities. Once you learn to trust this “sixth sense,” you’ll find it to be more reliable than depending on your intellect and reason alone to guide you.

Uranus sextile Neptune (Strength: 1.21)

You were born during a time when there was a great deal of unrest among America’s youth (in the mid to late 1960s). Our universities were the breeding ground for revolutionary minds, and young adults began crying out against social injustice and corrupt governments. As you mature and come into power, your generation will complete the tasks begun in the late 1960s. Therefore, you and others born during this time period have retained the quality of that time. You are a revolutionary thinker, and you are suspicious of any attempt by organizations or governments to withhold or distort truths in an attempt to control the masses.

Persons with this aspect will insist on living life their way. They will not compromise their values and will not hesitate to loudly voice their opinions. People born during this time become social activists very young and will be quick to demand that their interests be represented in government. Individual rights are very important to members of your generation, and you will not be forced into anything. And you will not hesitate to take on City Hall if you deem it necessary.

In your love life, you may find it easier to relate to those close to your own age, for they will share the perspective of this aspect.

Moon conjunct Jupiter (Strength: 1.05)

You become emotionally involved in the affairs of society and the world as a whole. In fact you can make an important contribution to the well-being of society as a whole because you have a deep understanding of society’s problems and insight into solutions. Your concern for others is genuine and sincere, and you will always offer your help when others are in need.

Although you may not be aware of it, you have a reputation for being generous and helpful to others. You may even offer shelter for those who are down and out. You learned early in life that is indeed more blessed to give than receive, and others admire this quality in you.

As a parent, you strive to encourage your children to follow your lead in serving others. They admire your strong faith in the most hopeless of situations; you always expect a change for the better. You feel an obligation to help raise others’ consciousness when you see the need, and your counsel is often well received.

You would do well in an occupation such as social work, public relations, rehabilitation, counseling, and other areas in which you would work a great deal with the underprivileged and handicapped members of society. It is possible that you will travel internationally in your career, such as with the Peace Corps, VISTA, CARE, etc. You would also excel in medicine, law and even religion; all of these require understanding, compassion and a certain amount of spiritual insight. You may find yourself drawn to organizations that are fighting a hopeless battle against great odds.

You are generally admired and respected by others, especially your close friends and family. In some way or another you will establish a legacy of your own to leave behind to those who carry on after you. Just be sure that you take some time for yourself during your crusade; this is very important for your physical and mental health. Don’t be afraid to ask for help with your own burdens.

Balance of Elements and Modalities

Abundant Earth

Sensual pleasures and delights are what make you tick. You value what you see before your eyes. If your partner isn’t there in front of you, you don’t feel especially appreciated. This is not to say that you need constant contact. You do, in fact, need your space. But you value the world of the five senses. You need to touch, caress, and hold–and get the same kind of experience back from your partner–in order to feel complete. Long-distance relationships or partnerships that keep you out of touch for too long would erode your spirit over time. You are in touch with the real world. More than others, you know where the rubber meets the road; persistent study has shown you how to make things happen in a practical sort of way.

You enjoy the satisfaction that comes not just from starting projects, but from finishing them. Your steady, organized approach is actually more productive in the long-run than is that of the quick, flashy types. You know how to establish a pace and keep it. You also know how to keep a relationship going. You can be a little slow with expressing your affections, simply because you want to feel secure before you do so.

Once you feel that stability and safety, however, you feel free to express your earthy passions, which are considerable! Although you’d rather work on an existing relationship than start a new one, you’re practical enough to go through the motions of getting to know someone new, if need be. Loyalty and commitment are your strong points. Like the Energizer Bunny, you keep going long after the flashier personalities have come and gone!

Do not let your awareness of the material world make you unappreciative of the spiritual plane that underpins our life here — to which others may be more sensitive than you. Practicality is fine, but try to understand that dreams, feelings, and enthusiasms are also important and should not be squelched. Others might surprise you with what their optimistic risk-taking is able to achieve. You can be so cautious and reserved that some people find you too conservative. If you yourself become bored or depressed, admit that security isn’t everything and try to be more spontaneous. Open up to the new and follow your bliss (in a careful sort of way).

Abundant Air

You are logical and rational, and live in the mind much of the time. Words spoken during intimate moments are important to you. Words can be powerfully seductive. A lover who normally uses non-verbal communication between the sheets is hard for you to “get” to, and may not understand your need for verbal expressions of passion. Let them know how much you value the spoken word. At times, you may not reach the levels of passion that you’d like to. If this is the case, remember that it is likely due to your analyzing the moment instead of living it!

Lack of Water

For you the world of feelings may be terra incognita. Close interpersonal relations, which require the expression of feelings, and empathy for others’ feelings, do not come naturally or easily for you. You have difficulty putting yourself in someone else’s shoes in order to feel what they feel. You will learn how to deal with life in a tough, mental sort of way. People looking for someone to empathize with them should not come to you. Those people who are comfortable with you are not looking for emotional closeness. It’s not that you don’t have emotions and feelings, but they do not come out easily in your relationships. If you are an artist, they may come out in your art.

You probably take refuge from the difficulty of forming emotional connections by concentrating on intellectual, practical, or inspired activity. Your best companions would be those who are able to inhabit these realms with you, but who are also in touch with their feelings. They can help you to contact your own feelings and teach you to respect and honor other people’s feelings.

A lack of planets in Water signs can be offset by a Water sign ascendant or by abundant planets in the houses of Endings.

Lack of Fire

You are willing to let flashier individuals take center-stage and lead the way. You can sometimes be quite detached. More fiery, impassioned lovers may find this frustrating! However, your objectivity can be valuable to such partners, and they may be in awe of your ability to keep your cool.

Abundant Mutable

With an abundance of planets in Mutable signs, you adapt easily to changing circumstances. Life seems to offer you a succession of roles to play. Skilled at diplomacy and compromise, you make a good negotiator and appear to be everyone’s friend. You actually are other-oriented, rather than self-oriented, and can be so busy meeting others’ needs that you lack direction in your own life.

Concentrate on finding friends of true worth and value. Be discriminating in your associations, in whom you choose to help. The endless flow from your mind, tongue, and hands will then work to return real value to you, which is what you deserve. You can probably only follow this advice just so far, though, because more than others the Universe sends you people in need, people for whom you are able to make a real difference. The assistance that you provide to the powerless may actually be remembered long after your facile mental output is forgotten. Because you are sensitive to others’ needs, you need to choose your partners wisely!

Lack of Fixed

You are more flexible than most people, and you are frequently on the move. You are a multi-tasker, and you are able to move forward with change and growth when desirable. You are a free spirit, not overly weighed down by attachments. You may be daring, brave, and filled with ideas, but you need individuals in your life who can provide you with structure and stability.

Lack of Cardinal

With a lack of planets in Cardinal signs, you may have trouble starting things. You may be timid about developing and carrying out plans. You would prefer to let others break the first ground of a new venture, so that you can pitch in and help once the outlines of the venture are clear. You probably lack confidence in your mastery of the real world and survival in it. You may substitute a rich inner life for your lack of action in the outer world.

In its highest form, you may be unusually creative or spiritually committed. Ideas filter up as you focus on ‘being’ instead of ‘doing’. Watch out for the lower manifestations, which are delegating tasks to others and pitying yourself over the lot that befalls you in life as a result of your lack of direction and initiative. Your different perspective on life gives you valuable insights that let you make real contributions wherever you are.

A lack of planets in the Cardinal signs can be offset by a Cardinal sign ascendant or by abundant planets in the Angular houses.

Moon Dominant (Strength: 17.86)

The world of your emotions is a dominant energy in your life. Your heart rules your head. A lover who does not appeal to your emotions, your need for nurturing and to nurture, and your sense of belonging will not get very far with you!

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